Myths About Divorce Mediation


As you may already know, Colorado law requires mediation for divorcing couples. This requirement is in place to try to make divorces as peaceful as possible. While you may think that is a good idea for other people, you may also believe some misconceptions and myths about mediation that make you skeptical of the process.

The truth is that mediation does not work for every couple. Some divorces end up in litigation. But mediating your divorce may work for you and come with a variety of emotional and financial benefits. Take a look at the common misunderstandings about mediation and why they are debunked.

Myth: The mediator makes all the decisions

A lot of people think that the mediator will act as an arbitrator or judge. However, the divorcing couple always maintains control over decisions and agreements in mediation. A mediator is a neutral party who helps the couple identify issues and facilitates an agreement. If you want more control over your divorce, mediation may be the best thing for you.

Myth: Mediation is a long process

Sitting down with your ex and hashing out financial and legal issues may sound like it is going to take forever. In reality, mediation is often much quicker than litigating a divorce. Some divorces may finish via mediation in just a few days or weeks.

Myth: It will not work in my high-conflict breakup

Maybe your split from your spouse is a nasty one. If there is a lot of bitterness and resentment between you two, you may assume mediation is impossible. However, a professional mediator can help couples focus on the important issues at hand and keep discussions calm. You do not need to be best friends with your ex to achieve your goals through mediation.

These are just a few of many myths about mediation. Consider giving the process a sincere effort. If it does not work out, you can always litigate your divorce.