Tips for Getting Through Divorce


Few events in life affect emotional and mental health more than divorce. It is usually cited as second only to the death of a loved one.

Getting through a separation and divorce, even when the action is necessary, can take a real toll on emotional health. To make sure you do not lose your way during the process, take some time to review these tips and implement them into your routine.

Avoid squabbles with your ex

One of the worst ways you can bring yourself down during divorce is by fighting with your ex. If the two of you decided to get divorced, there is probably a good reason for it. Nothing good can come from continuing to debate the same issues or even the new ones that crop up after you separate. Therefore, it is a good idea to limit communication. If you deal with a high-conflict ex, do it in writing only.

Find a support group

Divorce is an emotional roller-coaster. One minute, you may find yourself climbing to an apex of positive feelings only to get to the top and drop to a new low. Fluctuating emotions are normal during divorce, so finding people you can relay these ups and downs to can help. Whether you choose a group setting, such as a formal support group, or your friends and family rally around you, it is crucial to find those who can lift you.

Take your time

It can take a long time to get over the divorce. Because there is so much raw emotion, it is only natural to relive past events, beat yourself up for doing it, and so on. It is a cycle of happiness, sadness, hopelessness, and everything in between. You may not feel like the ride will ever stop, but it will. Do not try to rush yourself through the emotions, or you may wind up in worse shape than before. Allow yourself time to grieve, and get help from a professional if it goes on too long.

Remember, divorce is a process. While the legal prong of this process is finite, the emotional toll is not.